behavioural management consulant using NLp, TLT, Hypnosis & parallel identity therapy

We use this term in humour and in an unknowing statement when someone enjoys a healthy sex drive but the reality is something which is serious and can destroy relationships, finances, business and your own self.

For many who have a sex addiction, it is an all consuming need to engage in sex or have that interaction. Frequently it is not necessarily with a constant partner, it can well be in anonymous sex with people you do not want to become emotionally involved with and it isnt about wanting a relationship as such - it is just about the sex which sometimes can blur the boundaries of your own perception in a relationship where you justify it as "just sex" and therefore not infringing on the agreements within your relationship.

The problems occur when the guilt begins to mount or if you are single, it is becoming an absolute need on a daily basis from the moment you wake up which starts to take over your daily life and all the things which you are working towards begin to suffer.

It can be a lonely and difficult place, it can be impossible or difficult to discuss with your partner without admission of indescretion, a real issue to deal with on your own as you cannot seem to stop the need and the fear of judgement and sometimes anger when questioned can seriously damage your own self esteem and the relationships you have with the people you love.

Apart from the emotional side, it can also be expensive and can drain finances you do not have or should be spending on other crutial day to day living expenses and for some can mean debt. This can come from using professionals, hotels, travel expenses and a whole host of other costs.

If you are in a relationship, it can seriosuly effect your sexual relationship with your partner which obviously you cannot discuss with them. They then question themselves and a hole starts to appear in the relationship with you sometimes having to blame them for the problem as you cannot tell them what is really happening causing even further distress for both parties.

We all have needs at times and the aim of the therapy is to provide you with a management programme rather than to wipe out the entire issue. We need to find out the underlying cause of the problem which can be anything from chronic self esteem issues, certain types of drug use heightening sex drive, that need to be wanted in a way your partner maybe cannot give you and so many other problems which can give us that want and need for that interraction.

Using techniques to discover the root cause we then track the behaviour and disrupt the pattern and the aim is to take the problem state of the "need" and turn it into a choice or "want" so that if it crosses boundaries, causes problems you can decide to not go ahead with it.

Life is about choices and the therapy sessions I provide are about getting this very key part of our identity back to a decision rather than something which is an indescribable need or even feeling like an addiction.

For a confidentional conversation to see what steps you can take now to deal with this please fill out the form below.